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Thanks for requesting my free seven-lesson course "Spiritual and Emotional Support for Persons Experiencing Cancer"Lesson #2: Feeling Complete and Whole in Mind & Spirit 
Hello. I'm Bob Miller ND, with Lesson # 2 of your course of finding the spiritual and emotional support for persons experiencing cancer. In this lesson, we will explore the feelings of loss and grieving that you are feeling. This is the first of five emotions that we will cover. The feelings of loss may make you feel incomplete, as though part of you is missing. But First, Let's Start With...... A Review of Lesson # 1 I define any life challenge as a sorrow issue. A sorrow issue can be any setback, disappointment, unmet need, too much being demanded of you or traumatic events and losses. In these lessons, we are referring to the sorrow issue as the diagnosis of cancer.
For each of these emotions, I will teach you three simple Exercises we will use for each one, so you can find healing and restoration:
So Let's Begin Exercise # 1 by...... Identifying Your Loss and Grief The premise of this lesson is that the diagnosis of cancer creates losses in your life. Exercise # 1 is to identify in what ways you are feeling and experiencing loss. The types of losses you are experiencing are based upon how your diagnosis and treatments are impacting your life. Clearly, each person is different and the life losses you are experiencing will be different. What a person experiences who is able to keep working and functioning fairly normally will be quite different from the person who may have to dramatically alter their routine and lifestyle. So for step #1, begin to think about, or list the life sorrows you are experiencing, Examples could include:
Now Lets Move on to Exercise # 2.... Learning that "I Can Become Complete and Whole In Mind & Spirit" The goal of today's lesson is to help you learn an important principle;
This is very significant, and the core of today's lesson, so I will say it again; In mind and spirit, you can move towards feeling complete and whole If you want to include your faith in your work, think of it this way: With God's help, I am complete and whole despite the losses I am experiencing. Learning this important principle is the beginning step of your path to healing and restoration. So Lets Learn..... The Cognitive Restructuring As we discussed in lesson # 1, Cognitive Restructuring is learning new ways of thinking about a situation. If you believe you are less than whole, your thoughts and actions will be accordingly. However, when you accomplish the cognitive restructuring and learn that in mind and spirit, you are still complete and whole, you will think, act and behave in the new positive way. Before you begin the procedures and process of learning the new thought behaviors, you need to fix in your mind the end result. Let me explain: If you ever built or made anything, before you began, you probably had a picture in your mind as to what it would look like. If you are making a piece of clothing, you may look at catalogs or see examples. If you are building a house or a room addition, you first get somewhat of an idea as to what the FINISHED product will look like. Then you go about making blueprints, patterns, getting the materials or tools and then go about creating the finished product. However, it always starts with a thought about the finished product. So that's what we are going to do now, start thinking about what your life will be like after you have done the cognitive restructuring. Here's all you have to do. For some or all of the losses you identified, ask yourself and answer the following questions. You can do this in your head, or write it down . Let's Get Started With..... Question # 1 How would you feel, if in mind and spirit, you were complete and whole and fully restored, despite the sorrow issue of __________ ? (this comes from your list of losses you are feeling). What I am asking here, is for you to sit back for a moment and just "pretend" that if you did feel complete and whole, despite this loss, what would that feel like to you. There is no right or wrong answer. Just speculate and think about or write down what comes to you. If the sorrow issue is too deep and you can't even imagine that, it's OK. This happens and is normal. Just go on to a less significant sorrow issue. Don't give up if this happens!!! Now...Keep Going on to.... Question # 2 How would you act differently, or how would your life improve, if you felt complete and whole in mind and spirit? Think about this a bit, "pretend" you felt complete and whole, and let your mind wander as to how you would act or how life would change. Write these reaction or response down if you are taking notes. Then...Moving on To.... Question # 3 How would it feel if you acted and behaved in the way you just described above? Here again, "pretend" and "imagine" you were acting and behaving as you described above. How would this feel? If you can't go there yet, that's OK. Your answer may be a paragraph long or just "great", or "freeing" or "peaceful". Repeat this for your entire list of losses. Now You will Understand..... What This has done! As you do this exercise, "imagining" or "pretending" you feel complete and whole, and "imagining" or "pretending" to see how you would act, behave and feel, something very powerful starts to happen in your subconscious mind that I'm not sure I can explain. Pioneers in mind/body work such as Norman Vincent Peale said something to this effect; "What the mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve." You have now made some mental pictures in your mind as to what the end result will be. When we make or build something, after drawing the blueprint or knowing in your mind what you want as the end result, you go about collecting the materials and doing the work to make your thoughts a reality. Which Takes You To..... Exercise # 3 Of Cognitive Restructuring To help you get your healing and restoration, the next step is to perform mental guided imagery, that simply and easily "teaches" you these new ways of thinking. 
It's for this reason, that we created the five CD set called Tranquilities for Persons Experiencing Cancer. The first CD in the set is the Restoration CD. It is used with the Restoration aromatherapy oil blend to work together to help you create the mental images that teach you that you are complete and whole.
In Lesson Seven, I will explain in full detail what Guided Imagery is, how it works, and how you can use it to create new positive ways of thinking, but here's a brief overview of how the Restoration CD and Restoration aromatherapy blend easily guides you into learning you are complete and whole in mind and spirit:
This entire process only takes about 20 minutes. It may sound simplistic, but it is a very powerful technique that will gently help you understand new, positive ways of thinking. I believe that guided imagery is the easiest, most effective, and fastest way to learn these important principles . Learning to view your losses in a new way is your first step in your healing and restoring of your mind and spirit. To purchase Tranquilities, click on one of these options. In your next lesson, we will move on to Step # 2 and begin the process of discovering how your losses create fear, and how you can build your courage and conquer fear. For Your Healing and Restoration, Robert Miller ND For your next lesson, go to: For Your previous Lesson go to: |