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"Spiritual and Emotional Support for Persons Experiencing Cancer"

Lesson #1: The Five Emotions of any Stressful Life Challenge

Hello, I'm Bob Miller ND, a Natural Health practitioner that helps individuals build their health naturally.

Over the years, I noticed that stress from life challenges was seriously impacting the health, well being and peace of mind of my clients. I found that some individuals who were diagnosed with cancer experienced a particularly high level of stress.

Clearly, a diagnosis of cancer may be one of the most difficult life challenges you have ever faced. Your emotions may be swirling in so many directions, it may be difficult to know what you are feeling, and don't know where and how you may find peace of mind.

To help my cancer clients, I partnered with a Hospital Chaplain, who herself is a breast cancer survivor, along with a medical doctor, psychologist and a team of pastors to create a program that provides the spiritual and emotional support that persons who are diagnosed with cancer so often desperately need.

In these lessons, I'll share with you some concepts that may help you at this difficult time in your life. Hopefully, you may find some answers as to what you are feeling and how you can begin the path of healing and restoration.

In the seven e-mail lessons, you will learn:

  • The five emotions people typically experience in any life challenge, and usually more intensely with the diagnosis of cacner.
  • The order in which you typically experience these five emotions
  • The new thought processes you can learn that will put you on a path of healing and restoration.
  • The Three Easy to do Exercises that permanently teach you the new positive ways of thinking, so you can be restored in mind and spirit.

Let's Begin Our Journey and Learn.......

The Five Emotions of a Life Challenge

First, I'd like you to understand what I call "The Anatomy of Stress", this being, understanding the underlying emotions we all experience in any stressful life circumstance and of course, more intensely and for longer periods of time with the diagnosis of cancer

In any stressful life situation, we typically experience these five emotions but not always in this order;

Grieving and Feelings of Loss

Typically, the first feelings someone who is diagnosed with cancer are feelings of shock, grieving and loss. I call this a sorrow. It may feel as though part of you is missing, and you are incomplete. There is a big hole in your life. In your next lesson, we will cover this subject in depth.

Sorrow Creates Fear

Often, this loss and sense of grieving turns into fear. There may be fears of the future, fears of your own well being, fears regarding procedures, fears for hair loss, fears for pain, financial fears, or fears for those who may depend upon you.  In lesson #3, we will examine fears in greater detail.

Fear Creates Anger

After you experience fear, the next emotion is typically anger. Anger can be experienced in several ways. Typically we think of anger as someone who is bitter, cynical or acts angrily.

However, If the anger is towards yourself, you can experience it as;

  • Guilt
  • Shame or
  • Depressing thoughts
  • If you believe it is unacceptable or you just cannot show your anger, you may turn the anger inward as depression.
  • Self-Esteem is Lowered

    After the anger, our sense of self-esteem and self-worth is usually impacted in some way. In lesson #5 of this course, we will devote the entire session to how sorrow issues impact your self-worth and self-esteem.

    We Begin to Worry

    Finally, after the feelings of grieving, fears, anger and lowered self-esteem, we begin to worry and over-think. You may find yourself worrying about what will happen next, how you may be harmed, what may happen to others, or what else can go wrong. Or, you may find yourself replaying events of the past over and over again or replaying possible future events.

    These are the five emotions you experience in any stressful life situation.

    If You Would Like to Share Your Thoughts.....

    After learning about the five emotions of a life challenge, I have found that many people like to think through and express how they are feeling these emotions. If you would like to do so, or find it helpful, feel free to fill out the form below.

    If you would like to share these feelings, I'd be glad to hear from you.

    Just fill in the form below and e-mail to cancerstressresearch@tranquilities.com. I don't keep any personal information and strip the information from any e-mail address. You can copy and paste this part of the lesson and put your answers in.

    Stress Form

    Bob, Here's how I experienced the five emotions with my cancer diagnosis.

    Currently, the grief and loss I am feeling is ____________ (examples: Shock, Overwhelming, Unable to even grasp it yet, my world has been taken from me, I feel totally empty inside, part of me is missing, etc. )

    The fear I am experiencing is ______________ (describe: Fears for the future, fears for my wellbeing, financial fears, fears of moving forward, , fears of my own death, fear of pain or procedures, etc.)

    The kind of anger I am experiencing is _______________ (describe: anger at God that this happened, angry that this has happened to me, angry at myself for some reason, turning it inward as guilt, feeling depressed, etc).

    This impacted my self-esteem in the following way: ____________________

    The created worry for me in the following way(s): ______________________

    Thanks for your feedback. I trust this was helpful to you in beginning to learn what you are feeling.

    The Path to Healing and Restoration

    Despite all of these emotions, it's possible to find spiritual and emotional support, so your stress levels can be reduced.

    The Path to Healing and Restoration Begins with.....

    Cognitive Restructuring

    The path to healing begins when you realize that with God's help, and over time, you can learn what is called cognitive restructuring. Cognitive means the way you think and restructuring means to change or restructure your thought process.

    In the next five lessons you receive, we will discuss in detail, each of these five steps in your path of Healing and Restoration. Here's a brief overview of what you will learn.

    Step # 1 - Moving Towards Feeling Complete and Whole In Mind and Spirit.

    With God's help, your mind and spirit can be restored and renewed and you can feel complete and whole in mind and spirit, despite any physical difficulties.

    Step # 2 - Conquer Your Fear

    The diagnosis of cancer may have created various fears, including  fears of pain or treatments, financial fears, fear of pain, fears for others wellbeing if they depend upon you, etc. However, with God's help you can find the strength and courage to conquer your fears.

    Step # 3 - Release any Anger

    It's not unusual to have anger at the world, at God, perhaps even at the cancer or you may have anger at yourself and experience guilt or depressing thoughts. We will teach you how you can release anger and forgive. We will discuss this in more detail in lesson # 4.

    Step # 4 - Learn You are Worthy and Value

    It is not unusual to feel a loss of self-worth and self-esteem when diagnosed with cancer. However, with God's help, you can rebuild and restore your sense of worth and value.

    Step # 5 - Learn to Be Peaceful and Calm

    Now finally, the last step is to learn how to release worry. When you learn this principle, when you feel worry or anxiety starting, you just do the simple exercise you will learn, and as you do this, worry and anxiety melts away.

    How Do You Learn These Five Principles?

    You may be thinking by now, how do I begin to learn and put these life changing principles into my life so I can begin to heal and restore

    For each of the five steps, there are three easy exercises that will permanently help you learn and put into place this new way of thinking, feeling and acting and put you on your path to healing and restoration. :

    • Exercise # 1 : Understand how the diagnosis of cancer is creating each emotion and feeling in you.
    • Exercise # 2 : Begin to think and imagine how you will feel and act differently when you have conquered and overcome the negative emotion
    • Exercise # 3 : Use guided imagery to release the negative emotion and replace it with a positive one

     

    Cancer Support with Tranquilities for Persons Experiencing Cancer

    I will explain in Lesson # 7 how the five CDs and five aromatherapy blends in Tranquilities for Persons Experiencing Cancer combines guided imagery, your personal faith if desired, environmental sounds, music therapy and aromatherapy to help you learn these principles.

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    In your next lesson, we will discuss the feelings of grief and loss in more detail.

    For Your Spiritual and Emotional Healing and Restoration,

    Robert Miller ND

    To continue to your next lesson go to:

    Breast Cancer Support Lesson 2

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